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Peer Pressure Evolution?

2011-12-22T02:29:00.004+07:00

Feels like it's been forever since the last time i wrote! Finally, inspiration came today! (Not the best timing to suddenly pop out, though.) Still, it's quite magical for me to write again, after 4 months of brain cells-eating modules at uni! (I blame ALL modules for this, really!) OK! Let's start!

So when I was trying to sleep just now (actually was too excited thinking of sushi buffet tomorrow), I suddenly thought of things like friendship and stuffs. But that's not exactly the idea that I want to talk about now. The idea is how and how much we are influenced by people around us. Well, this may sound like teachers or parents who tried to stop us from imitating bad influences when we were young, but, again, what I have in mind is not exactly the same.

This time, bad influences or such are not really the main point; the focus is on the good ones. Good influences like, let's say, dressing neatly or (relatively insignificant) combing hair in the morning, may come from the friends we hang out with or study with or live with randomly. Such may be good in certain doses. I mean, too much of it may result in some consequences like: people getting sick of you or worrying too much about less important things. A question will then sum my points up: What has peer pressure evolved into today?

As we know, none of us will be able to resist peer pressure (PP) in any ways. I may sound too extreme, but PP does not include only the obvious ones. They can be somewhat insignificant too. For instance, cultural exposure may affect our accent gradually. This is an obvious PP that many people will notice. Other things like habit or perspectives may not be as obvious and may result from PP too.

Back to the question. PP seems to take place in a very different form today. Before, one of the PPs that my parents (probably) most afraid of was my addiction to Barbie dolls. This may sound tacky and old-fashioned, but when I was sitting in primary school, it was so cool to have the newest Barbie doll. Back then, when A had 5 different clothes for her Barbie, B would come up with the new Barbie innovation: baking Barbie, then C would say that she has a Barbie doll that can change hair color when exposed to different temperatures, while D kept on saying that she has a big closet just to keep all her Barbie dolls.

Me? I was lost within this circle of Barbie fans with just an old Barbie that I had for years already. Well then I had nothing to boast about my Barbie since it was just a stinking, old, useless Barbie doll. Then I would go home and ask my parents to go to department store and cry when I saw the newest Barbie doll (which left them no choice but to buy it unless I won't stop nagging for a long time).

The Barbie doll illustration showed a PP in the old version. What about today? PP has amazingly jumped into a new level. It's silent--yet deadly. Obvious PP has sneakily turned into a quiet but promising PP. A lot of times I have heard of a fashion icon's famous quote on how a girl should be. I personally admire this quote a lot. It is very inspirational and lovely. Yet, somehow when the question about PP comes up, it is the first quote that I remembered. This quote may represent the new version of PP today. When one friend adopts it, somehow we are urged to adopt it too. Things get even deeper when the definition of "accepted" girls today is further elaborated. One example that I can think of is regarding high heels. Some people started off wearing high heels trying to be one of the "accepted" girls today, while they actually suffer whenever they wear high heels. However, they believe such suffering would be paid off when people "accept" them. Does it actually worth that much?

Without answering the question and going any deeper around this issue (I realize it is quite controversial), today's PP maybe well-illustrated by the high heels example. It is silent--no one will really force you to do anything about it--yet you will do whatever it takes just to make yourself more confident around others. I am not judging whether the new version of PP is right or wrong, but I really think we need to be more thoughtful of certain things in life. Will we enjoy doing things the way PP wants us to? Will our efforts provide equal personal benefits? Or are these things we're doing just mere force of the new PP which leave us no choice but to be abided by it? I, myself, can't really think of the absolute answer, but I hope this idea can enlighten you to formulate your own answers!

30 minutes poem :)

2011-05-28T23:25:00.003+07:00

This is the tale of a young lady who awaits the coming of the lost lover:
A lady in red with no spurious cover,
The owner of sparkling eyes which defeats any hatred,
The love of God.
 
And yet,
Beneath them all lies one imperfection;
It is small, yet means the world to her.
It is weak, yet so strong, as the ticking clock.
 
Time passes by to remind her how much she misses him;
The beloved guy whose name she dared not speak,
The true love and the misery combined.
 
From him, comes this imperfection.
Her longing for a decade and more,
And the future seems to keep its secrets well.
She will never know what will happen next.
No one will.

Yet, she decides to continue,
With all those sweet memories:
The scent of his body,
The gentleness of his words,
The shadow of his smile.

By Chance (You and I) by JRA

2011-01-26T20:34:00.002+07:00

Hello world! It's been a while since i last blogged. The most recent news is I'm currently living in Singapore! Yay? Nah, not really. Although i discover a lot of new things here, I still miss Indonesia a lot! I miss my dog, Indonesian food, my parents, my friends, and lastly my room! Really really miss the big bouncy bed :( Here the bed is super hard, which I totally don't understand why. I bet anyone sleeping on the bed would have bone problems by the next day. Thank God I haven't got any problems with my body!

Okay. Wondering why the title is By Chance (You and I) by JRA? Obviously I'm going to talk about the song titled the latter. The lyrics are really cheesy but super sweet! Believe me, this song is really appealing to both male and female. The melody is extremely soothing and catchy. It really brightens up your day whenever you're down, depressed, or anything. Anyways, let's have a look at the lyrics! :D

Hi
Girl you just caught my eye
thought I should give it try
and get your name & your number
go grab some lunch & eat some cucumbers
WHY, DID I SAY THAT?
I don't know why.
But you're smilin' & it's something' i like
on your face, yeah it suits you
girl we connect like we have bluetooth

i don't know why
I'm drawn to you
Could you be the other one so we'd equal two?
and this is all based on a lucky chance
that you would rather add than subtract

You & I
could be like sonny & cher
honey & bears
You & I
could be like aladdin & jasmine
lets make it happen

La La's

Hey
How've you been?
I know that it's been awhile.
Are you tired cause you've been on my mind
runnin' thousand & thousands of miles
Sorry, I know that the line's outta style
but you
you look so beautiful on this starry night
loving the way the moonlight catches your eyes & your smile
i'm captivated
your beauty is timeless never outdated

i don't know why
I'm drawn to you
Could you be the other one so we'd equal two?
and this is all based on a lucky chance
that you would rather add then subtract

babe
its been 5 years since that special day
when I asked you on our first date
i guess it's safe to say

Let me say
you look beautiful on our wedding day

Hope you enjoy the song :D Here's the link!

the hardest part in life

2010-07-10T20:53:00.004+07:00

the hardest part in life
is not when you fell down and cried because your knee hurts.
the hardest part in life
is not when you haven't finished your job and got detention from the teachers.
the hardest part in life
is not when your boss scolded you when you came late to work.

the hardest part in life
is not when your parents got mad at you because you don't grow as they expected.
the hardest part in life
is not when you were dumped by the person you loved after a big fight.
the hardest part in life
is when you see the person you love is living in pain.

when you live in love, you know how hard it is to see your best friend, family, spouse, girlfriend, or boyfriend, or anyone that is close to you is in a trouble. you know how hard it is for them to cope with the problem that they are facing. you know how hurt it is when you are unable to accompany them during those hard times. you know how you really want that unfortunate event to be yours and let them live happily.

when you live in love, you know that life is not about you. life is more than just you. everything on earth is more important than you.

when you live in love, nothing bothers you more than a silly schedule that makes you unable to help the person you love. nothing disappoints you more when you know how their hearts have broken into pieces. nothing upsets you more than seeing the person you love crying.

the hardest part in life
is trying to make the loved ones remember that they are loved.

are you disappointed?

2010-06-29T19:31:00.005+07:00

did anyone disappoint you recently? yesterday? or even long ago that it's hard for you to forget?
is it so disappointing that you cannot move on?
here's the problem. human beings have high expectations. they aim as high as possible. although aiming high is not a total mistake, it can break you down completely in the end.

do you aim high? that's not a big deal though, everyone does it. everyone wants more and more; human beings are never satisfied. the major reason why we get disappointed easily is because we do not get what we want. then what's the point of planning the future?

our parents always tell us to dream and aim as high as we can and then work hard to achieve them. the reason why they do this is simply to make us more motivated in reaching our dreams. we know that without any relevant actions, we cannot get what we want. but still, life is too unpredictable that we cannot guarantee anything in the future.

aiming high is actually a good thing to do. it is not about whether you achieve them or not in the future, it is about your passion and faith. if you have the passion, you will try to be better so that your aim is achieved. if you have the faith, you will gain more motivation than any motivator can give.

then what if you become disappointed when life does not support your idea? don't think that your life is over. don't think that there's no use in doing anything in life. don't think that life sucks. think positively!

a wise man said that you have to get up after you fell down. or just think of it this way. have you ever wondered how could you suddenly walk with your legs? you learned it during childhood. at first, you fell down. but you don't stay there and cry and hope that somebody will tell you that it's ok to stay crawling. you will get up and smile and learn how to walk no matter how hard it is. then you will see that you have a bigger smile on your face. if a baby can do such a wonderful thing in life, why can't you as somebody older than babies?

so, remember this: disappointment is not the end of life; rather it is the beginning. and if you get even more upset after reading this post, just remember that everyone has been disappointed in their lives, no matter how perfect their lives could be. and another reminder: you are not alone.

i hope you can erase your disappointment after reading this :)
hope the best for you all :)

the long lost friendship!

2010-01-02T23:34:00.003+07:00

i wonder, how people write a good start?
with a hello?

so today, i did what i wrote before in the entry "friendship reminder?" and i met my elementary school friends. though we only met for a while, i was able to feel the old friendship that we had.
i think this is a good start.

so, when i met them today, i found out that things have gone differently after approx. 5 years.

firstly, i found out that my friends are pretty much the same as they were 5 years ago. the one is kinda timid, fun, and.. short? (no offense, and i'm serious). the other one is still easy-going, cute, and mature, i can say.

secondly, i found out how different i have become after 5 years. though i can't really see my own changes, i know that i have lost weight.. and.. become taller :) hey, it's fun to find out that you're growing after 5 years!

some simple tips for those who want to meet their old friends:
1. do not shy to contact your old friends
2. do not be afraid to meet them
3. do not cancel your appointment
4. do not let anything avoid you to meet them!

so, try these tips and i hope you can meet your old friends and stay in contact with them!

another problem.. how to write a good ending?

january 1st, 2010 :)

2010-01-01T01:30:00.003+07:00

how's yesterday? fun?
new year's eve will be super fun when you spend your time with the people you love.
fireworks, card games, bbq party, and family / friends gathering are the great examples to spend your night. everything seems perfect, new year is coming!

and so, today is the first day of the year 2010. this is the day when we have to mark a new beginning and start to make history. what happens at 2009 stays in 2009.
do not forget it.
do not stay with it.
every problem that we had should not be forgotten. each of them will light us the way in the future. we have to treasure them in every path that we take.
joy, happiness, or simply good luck should not be left behind as well. they will cheer us in every condition we are in.

memories are not there to be forgotten, they are there to live in us. they are the creators of our history in the future.

in this new year, let's begin our lives with everything good. leave everything bad; simply take the lessons from it.

a new year is nothing without a new soul, a new spirit, and a new joy.

leave the black and white 2009; welcome the colorful 2010!

HAPPY NEW YEAR! :)

motivator!

2009-12-30T11:42:00.003+07:00

though it may sound weird, i've just realized that i'm in love with this bloggy for the second time!
there are lots and lots of things i want to share from the inspiration that comes anytime.

okay, so to start today, i want to be a motivator.
1. when you are in trouble, don't be sad.
simply think about it this way: compare that unhappy situation with something even worse. i bet you'll be more relieved to know that you're in a much better condition!

2. when you are not in a good health, don't be desperate.
simply think about it this way: thank God, you're still alive! how hard would it be for the people around you to lose you!

3. when you feel unhappy about something, don't be mad.
simply think about it this way: how lucky you are to have that thing. count how many positive things you can get from the thing that made you unhappy!

4. when you are under pressure, stay strong.
simply think about it this way: pressure will force you to be a better person in the future. therefore, do not worry.

5. when you are feeling lonely, don't complain.
simply think about it this way: the toughest person in the world is someone who is able to overcome their biggest misery in the world. thus, when you overcome your loneliness, people will see you as a tough person, and trust me, you will never know the meaning of 'lonely' anymore.

these are 5 conditions that are considered bad by most people. however, i want to remind all of you that life is not about overcoming problems. life is about the way you overcome them. have you tried not to complain or get mad over something?
if you have, i believe you will be a stronger person. day by day, people improve by trying to see what's positive beneath the problem.

so, stay strong! you know you can do it, and everyone has the chance to improve! :)

inspire me! :)

activate: ON

2009-12-29T20:53:00.001+07:00

and soooo...
after a very long break, i've finally returned!
miss me, bloggy?

adeline setyo is re-activated! :)

friendship reminder?

2009-12-29T20:12:00.005+07:00

though it may sound crazy to post twice a day, i will do it anyway, while it's still fresh from the oven.

today, dec 29, is my best friend's bday. i was kinda shocked when i realized how this day brings back those memories. and friends, i guess, make me remember this.

after about 5 years (less or more), i haven't met my elementary school friends. we've met though, during the easter service. however, it was a short meeting and we had no time to discuss anything about our lives. today's short morning talks--with the birthday girl--truly cause my brain to spill everything out. suddenly, here i am, posting about friendship reminder, inspired by them.

i will arrange meetings (if possible, i truly hope they are not on vacation) and try to get my "lost" friendship. i call this as a "loss" because we lose contact for so long, and I, was unable to take the initiative to call them or anything. shame on me, you can say.

okay, so now.. my plan is:
1. find their numbers
2. text them
3. arrange one or more appointment(s)
4. meet them asap!

though people may call me ignorant, i will still say: "I MISS YOU A LOT GUYS!"
just because i haven't met you guys for decades doesn't mean that i've forgotten you!
i really hope i can meet all of you very soon and get my great great great friendship back! :)
oh yes i will! :)

so, got to go! i have to text them now! hey, where's my phone?

fight sorrow! :)

2009-12-29T10:50:00.002+07:00

so here i am, enjoying my christmas holiday while noticing that in three days time, i'll be living in a new year and.. getting older?

i've been thinking all night long (does 1 hour count?) and realized that a lot of people may experience sorrow recently. do you?

is it normal to be in such condition?
surely it is. what may be different is the way people face this.

after a while, i found that there are 2 main ways people will deal with sorrow:
positively or negatively.

+ively, people may:
try to simply forget the sorrow, or
try to get over the sorrow

-ively, people may:
get very depressed, or
hurt themselves

so, i think the best thing to do to overcome sorrow is to see the happiness that is within you. no matter how small the percentage of happiness there are, it will make you feel you have overcome the sorrow.

sorrow is not what you have to fear. sorrow is what you have to get over through this life.

life will never be ordinary, each person's life differs from another. what we have to do is simply appreciate our lives and let them flow.

remember, even the smallest part of us can make a difference to the whole world! :)

love calculation

2009-08-24T19:54:00.004+07:00

If you think math is boring, i hope you will change your mind after reading this. Instead of writing essays and stuffs, today I’d like to explain about a new math formula, called the Setyo’s Law, or the “love parabola”. So here’s the explanation:

“Love parabola” is formulated as:

Me = You²

This is how the formula works:

When You is a positive value (i.e. happy or in love with Me), Me will also be a positive value (i.e. Me always loves You).

When You is a negative value (i.e. sad or angry because of Me), Me will remain a positive value (i.e. Me always loves You).

In other words, Me will always be a positive value, since the square of all values of You will all be positive.

In this formula, the changes in You (independent variable) will affect the value of Me (dependent variable). Therefore, Me will always need You to be by Me’s side.

Whenever.

Wherever.

This formula is dedicated to You.*

Me hopes You’ll get well soon.

Me hopes the best for You.

Me loves You.

*You know who you are :p

storyteller

2009-07-06T21:43:00.006+07:00

call me a storyteller if you like.

anyway, i'm gonna tell a story about a girl.
this is a true story, part of her biography.
permission? don't worry, i've asked her permission and she said,"go ahead, write about me. but don't ever tell my name there."
sure! :)

uhm, just to inform those who are reading this..
it's a true and dramatic story. if you get tired of such things, then i don't really urge you to read this.
but if you're so interested, then go ahead. read it and enjoy! :)

here i am, sitting in front of my computer, reading a novel. it's a really boring one.
i heard some steps coming from outside the room. then the door opens.
great. here comes my mom. she is pretty, adorable, and ambitious. oh, another two. she's workaholic, yet a family-oriented woman. a very great woman, indeed.

a perfect woman? not really. remember.. nobody's perfect. this theory, i mean, law, applies to everyone in the world. regardless their success in career, family, or anything.
and yeah, this applies to my mom too.
she's almost perfect. almost.
the only thing that makes her imperfect is: her husband
to tell you the truth, everyone that knows my father admire him a lot.
i used to admire him so greatly. but not anymore.

apart from all his knowledge, bravery, and great experiences, he's also imperfect.
he has all of these qualities since the beginning of his life.
he's an ambitious worker, a charming speaker, a loyal friend.
unfortunately, he doesn't value his family that much.

maybe this is the reason why he never gets along with my mom.
and me.

so here comes the dramatic story. my dad loves her mom so much, that my mom gets envious or so. though she never admits that she is.
here is the root of all the chaos that happens in my life. a broken home? almost, but it's not the right description of my family.
they argue what is right and wrong everyday. there's no day without hearing their harsh argument.
then they come to me, telling me all of the right and wrong things about their partner according to their own perspectives. at first, i was happy because this means that they trust me a lot.
but after a longer while, i get tired of all their selfish complaints.

if they know how hurt it is to hear all of their arguments everyday
they insult each other
they are life partners, but they seem more like eternal enemies to me.

how could i stay in such a life?
when i wish that this is the only problem that i have in my life, other great great great problems come.
friend betrayal.
family's economic crisis.
health problems.
relatives' deaths.

apart from all my talents. apart from all my luck. apart from all the gifts that God has given to me. this is how i should live my life.
i tried to let it flow by nature, but it gets even worse.
i always hoped that i could have control over the time and over others' way of thinking.
sometimes this life tire me to death.
it drains all of my efforts in this life. it's as if all of the achievements that i get from all my patience, consistence, and ambitions are simply nothing.
all of the motivation and dedication that make me drive my life this way seem so far away and hard to grasp.
to whom should i complain?
my parents? this will make their relationship gets even worse.
my friends? nope, none of them are trustworthy, really.
God? oh sure, i pray everyday--before i sleep and after i wake up--for His blessings.
when i summarize all of these i only get one option: stay strong. you can do everything on your own. you don't need anybody's help, cause it's just worthless.

okay. this is just part of her story. this is not the most dramatic of her life but... maybe this will ease her pain for a moment. at least you can complain here, right?
so to the girl of this biography: please don't be sad and be who you are.
i always hope that i will see you as the talented, interesting, and good girl at the end of the month! cheer up, dear! :)

that's all from me [and this girl]
hope you didn't get bored and skip the middle story :D

kisses and insomnia

2009-06-30T22:24:00.007+07:00

have you ever kissed somebody before?
if you have, what did you feel after that?
if you have not, why would you want to kiss someone?

have you ever loved somebody so much that you cant go to sleep?
if you have, how important is that person for you?
if you have not, are you curious or think this is just a joke?

6 questions are asked, only 4 will be answered.

inspired by a chit chat with a friend of mine, chintia (click here to see her blog)
kisses.. they melt the hard core, they freeze the time, they addict us.
insomnia.. bothersome, absolutely.

how do we connect them?
through one simple, taboo word: LOVE

why do you kiss somebody?
here are some answers that i come up with just now:
1. you think that person is SPECIAL
2. you WON'T LEAVE that person
3. you think that person is YOURS
4. you LOVE that person

here are some quotes from a song "insomnia", sung by craig david:
"I never thought that I'd fall in love, love, love, love
But it grew from a simple crush, crush, crush, crush
Being without you girl, I was all messed up, up, up, up..."

"...Ah, i just can't go to sleep
Cause it feels like I've fallen for you
It's getting way too deep
And i know that it's love because i can't sleep til you're next to me
No i can't live without you no more
Oh i stay up til you're next to me
Til this house feels like it did before
Feels like insomnia ah ah, Feels like insomnia ah ah
Feels like insomnia ah ah, Feels like insomnia ah ah"

experience is what lies behind a song. when this song was written, the author may have felt this way before. the author may have loved someone so much that he cannot go to sleep.

this is not a joke.
insomnia may attack you once you love someone so greatly!
give that special person a kiss that will bring you solace and warmth.

appreciate what is meant by LOVE and happy life is what you deserve!
hope you enjoy reading this one! :)

lucky enough?

2009-06-24T12:47:00.004+07:00

happy day!
so, to start this afternoon cheerfully, i have a favor: please answer these questions below.

have you ever felt like you're the luckiest person in the entire world?
have you ever been in a lucky condition?
are you lucky enough?

you may think that these are silly questions.
well i think so too
but somehow.. these questions made me realize that i have been acting in a wrong way recently.

problems will come over and over again no matter what, and that's what we should know. behind them, lay lessons that we will later name as experience. the experiences that we get, will then be used on our next problems and make us get even wiser.

so why bother having a bad luck or so?
luck may make you feel happy or sad, but that's not the point.
luck is just a factor that will influence your daily lives.
luck cannot change your destiny.
luck won't bring any significant changes to your life.

love your life as usual, be a better person from day to day, and you'll know that your life is much better than it was!

i still believe in luck, though :p

cheer up! smile and enjoy your life!

the smiling machine :)
the luck generator
cya! :)

friendship! :)

2009-04-26T19:59:00.002+07:00

as we know, there is a quote that says,"as we grow older, we get wiser" and they say that,"we will never understand it until we experience it". and for those of you who think that these are jokes, sorry to say, but they are not just-for-fun things at all

they are true
they are real

if you're asking why i can tell all of this is simply because.. im getting wiser as grow older and i know a lot of things as i experience them! such as studies like math, business, econ, physics, biology, and all known knowledge in the world, we will learn them both by experience and by theory. but what will make them seem more meaningful to you? its simply by experiencing it. theory? lol, its just an introduction to all of the things that you'll face in the future

just like true friends, they will be with you when you're sad, when you feel like you need someone to be with you, or even when you're dump by your own pet... they will listen to you, though they dont understand much about what you're facing, patiently.

fake friends? they will be there with you when you're on the top of the wheel, surely! yet, where are they when you're down there? possibly having a good party or a very enjoyable date? and then when you tell them about your problem and ask them "where are you that time? i need you a lot! you know that!" they'll simply answer you with one fake word "sorry" and then continue with a lot of bullshits, that will make you sick everytime you rewind it in your mind.

so, there they are! two different division of friendship. now ask yourself "what kind of friendship do i have now?" and hopefully you can find out the best answer!

havent found the answer yet? dont worry, coz "as you grow older, you'll get wiser"

thinking that this post is a total bullshit? be patient, coz "you will never understand it until you experience it"

signing out,
the Smiling Machine
will smile no matter what happens :)

life = ?

2009-02-03T18:23:00.003+07:00

life? could anyone tell me the meaning of life??
life.. is it that good? or.. is it so bad that a lot of people really hate it?
what is life, for real?

according to dictionary.references.com, life means "the condition that distinguishes organisms from inorganic objects and dead organisms, being manifested by growth through metabolism, reproduction, and the power of adaptation to environment through changes originating internally."

that is physically.

yet sometimes, we see our life this way:

a newly-opened fried rice restaurant is giving all its customers free fried rice. when we come to that restaurant, the owner gives us a plate of fried rice. it looks very delicious and smells very nice. when we eat it at first, it tastes so good that we really want to eat it again. when we eat it again, we still think that this fried rice is very delicious.

suddenly, in the middle of our enjoyment, we find out that there is a cockroach in it! how disgusting will it be? so, we start complaining to the owner and say that we want to have another plate of fried rice, that has no cockroach in it. but the owner refuses and suddenly gets angry because he has given us free food, yet we don't respect him at all.

so, the choices are in our hand: eat the fried rice until we finish it, throw the plate away, or simply wait for the owner to take it from us.

this story resembles our life. once we live it, we feel so happy that we want to continue living in it. once we are dissatisfied by something in it, we just get upset and want to throw it away, like it's nothing but a smelly garbage. God has given us a life, which is free and clean. but sometimes, He wants to test our faith to Him by giving some bad things in our life. yet, sometimes, we are the ones who bring those bad things to ourselves. we shouldn't blame Him for what has happened. instead, we should thank Him for what he gave us. this is the true meaning of life.

this day is the birthday of my mom, and it reminds me of how long she had experienced life and continue living in it. it makes me realize that life is tough, yet it is something that we have to carry on until the day when we have to leave this world. anyway, happy birthday, mom!

be thankful, be patient, and love your life!

smile and smile!

2009-01-30T23:00:00.002+07:00

do you find it hard to smile?
try to smile! :)
you can't?
try harder! :)
you really, really can't smile?
then force yourself to! :)

smile, as they said, is a curve that would straighten all problems in the world (or something that sounds like this, i don't really know the exact quote). so.. smile! what's so hard about it? you just have to contract your cheek muscles a bit and then there it is.. a smile! :)

will you benefit from smiling? surely, you will..
firstly, you will look younger than the people who are the same age as you
secondly, people will like you more, as you always look cheerful and friendly
thirdly, the atmosphere around you would be more comfortable to your friends
fourthly, your inner beauty will shine, and who cares about the shell surrounding it?? :)

asking when should we smile? we smile at anytime in our life. believe it or not, smile will make you think that life is more enjoyable that it was. :)

so, from now on, would you mind smiling no matter what condition you might be in? i really hope so, though! :)

enjoy your night and smile :)!

committing suicide?

2009-01-23T22:12:00.002+07:00

is committing suicide necessary? well, i don't think so
but do you know how tough my life has been recently? umm.. i know how much you suffer recently but..
then i should commit suicide! don't you think? uhh.. no.. you shouldn't.. and pls don't

this is just a bit of another conversation that has to do with feelings, and usually, this is a conversation between two female teenagers.

wondering why i'm posting such a horrible topic? no, i'm not in trouble, i'm not having any problems that would make me give up and commit suicide. no, i'm not thinking that my life is unimportant so i gotta end it asap. no, i'm not thinking about committing suicide and feeling that everything would be OK and everything will become better. it's not about me. it's about my best friend. and she knows who she is, doesn't she?

committing suicide? hey, i know you and you are more creative than this.. you know what? committing suicide is not cool at all and it doesn't reflect you're creativity, while the world knows that you ARE born to be someone creative. come on, don't give up on life's hardships. they should've made us tougher, not brittler. and we must face everything that are coming towards us rather than avoiding it like a coward.

i know you are smart enough to know that life is much more precious than anything else in the world. it is the gift that you'll never be able to pay back no matter how rich, talented, or famous you are.

i know you. i know you.

you won't give up, will ya?

well, pls don't

remember, i'll always be by your side, and i always know and understand your feelings.

hugs and kisses, your best best best friend.
[just for you, coz you know i hardly ever use this phrase! so be happy from now on! cheer up, girl!]

happy new year all!!!

2009-01-06T15:32:00.003+07:00

lettin go the sweet and sour 2008; tastin the freshly-baked 2009!!
this is my motto for this new year!

first of all, merry christmas and happy new year everyone, though it's kinda late..

so where've you been all this holiday? hope you enjoy your holiday!

me? i went to china for a couple weeks and i found that it's quite an enjoyable place to visit
met a lot of friends and a lot of stones, walls, etc. the chinese dynasties, etc...
sounds somewhat boring, doesn't it?
well, as long as you really want to enjoy your vacation, these things don't bother much, really!
and what's great about going on tour is.. you can meet a lot of friends that are enjoyable to talk with! :) (and also a good-looking man named steven :p)

i want this!!

2008-12-19T19:58:00.003+07:00

to tell you the truth, i am a fan of the sims! and i've just found out that the sims 3 is gonna be released!

for more information, you can freely click on this link: http://thesims3.ea.com/

the sims 3 looks so good, even better than the sims 2, which is awesome.

being happy... but...

2008-11-16T12:57:00.002+07:00

how could you be happy over somone else's sorrow? that's a phrase that i made yesterday, because of something. if you're reading this (you know who you are) then you should think about something again. don't you think that what you're laughing about right now is something that he is thinking sadly at the same time?

hey, you always said that you're not selfish; you think about others first, rather than yourself. i remembered this clearly in my head. i'm sorry that i have to say this, but i don't see any other way that can make you realize more than this. you ARE selfish, dear! i love you, coz you're my friend, and we've been friends for more than a year, yet what disappoint me is, i don't know your true self! i know NOTHING about you, dear. nothing..

i've tried to tell this directly to you, but you know, it would be as hard as destroying a tough building with only a little spoon! it would take me forever just to make you realize about this. sorry that i have to say something rude. i just dont want anything bad happen to you next time. sorry, once more, dear.

P.S. i'll always be with you though i might seem mad right now, okay? we're friends and that's the reason why i post this thing. =3

why i blog

2008-11-13T20:30:00.003+07:00

why do i blog? another question that keeps on spinning around my head this day...
a friend of mine also thinks that blogging means wasting time.
hey, i don't really agree with this though. i think by blogging i can understand my true self even more. from all the posts that i wrote, the layout, colors, and everything in my blog's page!
for you guys who never blog before, try it once and i believe you'll like it.

a lot of things happen today. this is the day when damien, jason, and alwin are celebrating their bday.. how cool guys, HAPPY BIRTHDAY

because of the brokenheart thing, i forgot to write happy birthday to Mr. DiCaprio. hey, dear mr. dicaprio, happy belated bday! :)

emo is getting even more into my life and i'm starting to enjoy this. emo is an art; something that is not abstract, yet can't be described directly. emo is just.. emo
emo is awesome, and being emo is not being a weirdo or something

signing out.. the psycho, me, and the insane, and the siakai lol.

brokenheart thing

2008-11-11T20:14:00.005+07:00

as tjung said,"brokenheart is like chocolate; it may melt and never be fixed but we can use it to make a great cake." a great quote, isn't it?
the emo side of me is coming and guess what? it becomes a way of life for, maybe, unknown time. emo is somewhat good, but the scar that i'm facing is tough. broken heart. tough is it? most ppl suffer just bcoz of this disease and it can kill too! this is a dangerous disease, lucky enough though, it's not a genetic disease, so my descendant would not feel the pain (hopefully)

anyone reading this post might be tired enough of reading those emo things, but hey, it's not that emo you know. i'm a considerate lady so i'm not as extreme XD just showing my feelings XD

so i was chatting with maria, a friend of mine at school, which is a gorgeous lady and smart as well. in the mid of our planning about somebody's bday, i made a poem as a reflection of my emo side.
here you go:
help me breaking others' heart
bcoz i don't want to be destroyed all the time
i want to know how it feels to break their hearts too
yet, i'm unable to do that
for i live to love

say yes to emo :'(
say no to drugs :)
mrs. xyz is emo and she is lovin' it =3

a new christmas tree!

2008-11-04T18:01:00.004+07:00

yesterday my mom buys a new christmas tree and it is delivered to our home today. i asked her to buy the gold decorations tomorrow and she said that it was a nice one, so she bought them and we decorated the tree right away when we got home.
after decorating for about, uhmm, 20 mins, here is our christmas tree! taa daa! quite nice, isn't it? lol

today i got some kind of headache, because last night i had some problems with my stomach, so i almost couldn't sleep because my it hurts a lot. i was not so spirited today because of the headache. i felt really bad and i often ignored my friends because i was not in my best condition.

later that day, when it was the time to go home, my friends told me to take a photo with the teacher that teaches yr 7. angel (one of my friends that pulled prank on me) said that she won't give my phone back if i don't take a picture with this person. well, i was forced to take that picture (sorry mr.. T.T) after taking the photo, they kept on picking on me bcoz i took that picture, hey! who crossed the line first ladies?! lol, however this makes me happy again (special thx to angel, novia and santika!) btw thx a lot to sir tim lol :)

go JAMBAN!! :D

2008-11-03T18:41:00.003+07:00

vote for JAMBAN!! vote for JAMBAN! lol...
those who read this and wondering who is JAMBAN, then i'll tell you that this is the best band at school! (hope that you guys could become a band that goes international!)

JAMBAN, you guys rock! kim as the guitarist, kristel as the keyboardist, ezra as the drummer, adit as the bassist, oge as the guitarist, and nael as the vocalist, nicolas s as the lighting coordinator! hehe.. thanks for giving a great performance today! :)

P.S.: everyone vote for JAMBAN! :D oh ya, you guys whose names i write in this post, don't forget to say thank you :p

the keys of happiness! :)

2008-11-02T20:36:00.006+07:00

have you been thinking that your life sucks recently? or do you think that you're playing an unimportant role in this life?
well, to tell you the truth, i once thought that way too, yet now i'm happy everyday.. how come? money? well, this doesn't bring a very great effect on your life. we can see this from a lot of rich people. are they happy? maybe we're far happier than they are. then what are the keys of happiness?

first of all, everything must start from your true self. be a cheerful one. hey, this is just a reminder, you're life means nothing without enjoying every bits of it! everyday, we spend our time, thinking how useless it is, or thinking that life means nothing at all and stuffs like that.. if you did, then you are wasting your energy and your money (time is money, remember?) you want a better life? be thankful for whatever you have right now, coz everything begins from our own positive thinking!

the second one, after doing the first step, don't forget that we have to see the world from another perspective, that is seeing the world from the bright side of it. all people living in this Earth have their own dark sides, so why bother? nothing would happen to us, though. we can help them to be a better person by telling them what is bad and supporting them when they are doing the right thing. hey, life is about supporting others as well. without others, you cannot live alone, i bet. so, see others from their best sides and enjoy your life even more!

be someone patient. people don't change in a second, a minute, an hour, a day, a week, a month, a year, or even a decade! we needs patience; this way we would see changes in the world CLEARLY. though it might be slow, everything would become better as we spend our days here on the Earth. the key of happiness is about being a better person as well.

when you feel like life sucks, and everything around you seems to bring you down, remember that you have to be thankful for whatever you've got in this world. the keys of happiness are all made by ourselves. enjoying life would be one of the best way to be happy. so, be happy, enjoy your life, and be a better person from now on!

the gods and goddesses!

2008-10-31T22:53:00.004+07:00

i, personally, am interested in the greek mythology.. especially about the gods and goddesses that ruled world in the past.

here are the list of gods:
1. Zeus - God of the sky, of justice and of mercy and ruler of the Olympian gods. His weapon is a thunderbolt which he hurls at those who displease him. his father is Cronus, his brothers are Poseidon and Hades. he is married to Hera. He is represented as the protector of the weak, and the punisher of the wicked.

2. Poseidon - God of the sea, protector of all waters. He married Amphitrite, a granddaughter of the Titan Oceanus. His weapon is a trident, which can shake the earth, and shatter any object.

3. Hades - the lord of the underworld as well as the god of wealth. his wife is Persephone.

4. Aris - God of war. son of Zeus and Hera; disliked by both parents. He is considered murderous and bloodstained but, also a coward.

5. Hermes - the cleverest of the Olympian gods, and messenger to all the other gods. son of Zeus and Maia, he's the fastest god.

6. Apollo - God of music, of light, of healing, and of truth; the archer. son of Zeus and Leto. his twin sister is Artemis. his bird is crow and dolphin as his animal.

7. Hephaestus - God of fire and the forge. he's the only god that is lame and ugly. his wife is Aphrodite.

8. Dionysus - god of fertility and wine, later considered a patron of the arts. He invented wine and spread the art of tending grapes. He has a dual nature. On the one hand bringing joy and devine ecstasy. On the other brutal, unthinking, rage. son of Zeus and Semele.

9. Eros - God of love. son of Aphrodite. his weapon is darts or arrows.

10. Helios - Sun god. son of Hyperion.

11. Thanatos - the god of death.

12. Pan - God of flocks and shepherds. son of Hermes and Penelope. He is mostly human in appearnce but, with goat horns and goat feet. He is an excellent musician and plays the pipes. He is merry and playful frequently seen dancing with woodland nymphs. He is at home in any wild place but, is favorite is Arcady, where he was born.

13. The Fates - There are three Fates. Clotho, the spinner, who spins the thread of life. Lachesis, the measurer, who choses the lot in life one will have and measures off how long it is to be. Atropos, she who can not be turn, who at death with her shears cuts the tread of life.

14. Nemesis - means righteous anger, due enactment, or devine vengence. This god helped to avenge those who were wronged.

and goddesses:
1. Hestia - Goddess of the Hearth, the symbol of the house around which a new born child is carried before it is received into the family, the virgin goddess. Zeus's sister. she is the mildest, most upright and most charitable.

2. Hebe- Goddess of youth, daughter of Zeus and Hera. wife of Hercules.

3. Athena - Virgin goddess of reason, intelligent activity, arts and literature. daughter of Zeus. goddess of the city, handicrafts, and agriculture.

4. Aphrodite - goddess of love, desire and beauty. daughter of Zeus and Dione. wife of Hesphaestus. Her favorite lover is the god of war, Ares.

5. Artemis - goddess of chastity, virginity, the hunt, the moon, and the natural environment. daughter of Zeus and Leto; twin sister of Apollo.

6. Persephone - goddess of springtime (after abducted by Hades, she becomes the Queen of the underworld), the daughter of Zeus and Demeter.

7. The Graces - daughters of Zeus and Eurynome. There are three Graces: Aglaia (Splendor), Euphrosyne (Mirth), and Thalia (Good Cheer). The are known for singing and dancing for the gods.

8. The Muses - the daughters of Zeus and Mnemosyne. They are known for the music of their song, which brings joy to any who hear it. There are nine Muses, each with her own specialty: Clio (History), Urania (Astronmy), Melpomene (Tragedy), Thalia (Comedy), Terpsichore (Dance), Calliope (Epic Poetry), Erato (Love Poetry), Polyhymnia (Songs to the Gods), Euterpe (Lyric Poetry).

9. The Erinnyes - Also known as the Furies, punish crime. They persue wrong doers relentlessly, until death, often driving them to suicide. They are particularly concerned with matricide. There are three Erinnyes, Tisiphone, Megaera, and Alecto. The Erinnyes came from the blood of Uranus when he was castrated.

don't forget the Titans:
1. Uranus - the sky god and the first ruler. the son of Gaea. his rule ended when Cronus castrated him.

2. Cronus - ruler of the Titans. his wife is Rhea. son of Uranus, Father of Zeus, Hades and Poseidon.

3. Oceanus - the unending stream of water encircling the world. his wife is Tethys.

4. Hyperion - the Titan of light, the father of the sun, the moon, and the dawn.

5. Iapetus - the father of Atlas, Prometheus and Epimetheus.

6. Crius - A Titan, married Eurbia. Had 3 children: Astraios, Perses, Pallas. Was grandfather of (Astraios married Eos): Zephyros/Zephyrus (West Wind), Boreas (North Wind), Notos/Notus (South Wind), Eosphoros/Eurus (East Wind), and all the "stars". Was also grandfather of (Pallas married Styx): Zelos, Nike, Kratos, Bia.

7. Promotheus - the wisest Titan. his name means "forethought"; able to foretell the future. known as the protector and benifactor of man. He gave mankind a number of gifts including fire. He also tricked Zeus into allowing man to keep the best part of the animals scarificed to the gods and to give the gods the worst parts. For this Zeus punished Prometheus by having him chained to a rock with an eagle tearing at his liver. He was to be left there for all eternity or until he agreed to disclose to Zeus which of Zeus children would try to replace him. He was eventually rescued by Hercules without giving in to Zeus.

8. Epimetheus - the stupid Titan. name means "afterthought"; he also accepted the gift of Pandora from Zeus, which lead to the introduction of evil into the world.

9. Atlas - he fought against Zeus, therefore he was punsihed to hold up the world on his back.

10. Coeus - Titan of Intelligence. Father of Leto.

11. Gaea - the Earth goddess. mated with her son, Uranus, to produce the remaining Titans.

12. Rhea - the wife of Cronus, mother of Zeus.

13. Tethys - wife of Oceanus.

14. Mnemosyne - the Titan of memory, the mother of Muses.

15. Themis - the Titan of justice and order, mother of Seasons and Fates.

16. Phoebe - Titan of the Moon. Mother of Leto.

17. Thea - The wife of her brother Hyperion, Theia gave birth to Helios (sun), Eos (dawn), and Selene (moon). She is the goddess from whom light emanates and considered especially beautiful.

18. Metis - the Titaness of the forth day and the planet Mercury. She presided over all wisdom and knowledge.

there are still other gods and goddesses that are not discussed in this post. it is a verrrryyyy long one, i know.. yet it improves our knowledge on the greek myth!

fruit symbolism!

2008-10-31T17:31:00.003+07:00

fruits..
delicious, refreshing yet healthy!

despite their taste, they symbolize a lot of things as well:
Apple - peace, women's beauty, eternal youth, temptation
Cherry - fertility, merrymaking, festivity, beauty, courtesy, modesty, immortality
Pear - immortality
Plum - young woman's early beauty, abundance, the earth's bounty
Pomegranate - fertility, marriage
Strawberry - spring, birth

which fruit appeals to you the most?

the right man!

2008-10-29T20:30:00.002+07:00

do you find it hard to get the right man of your life?
maybe you should consider this:

11 reasons why women find it hard to find the man of their life:
1. The nice men are ugly.

2. The handsome men are not nice.

3. The handsome and nice men are gay.

4. The handsome, nice and heterosexual men are married.

5. The men who are not so handsome,but are nice men, have no money.

6. The men who are not so handsome,but are nice men with money think we are only after their money.

7. The handsome men without money are after our money.

8. The handsome men, who are not so nice and somewhat heterosexual, don't think we are beautiful enough.

9. The men who think we are beautiful, that are heterosexual, somewhat nice and have money, are cowards.

10. The men who are somewhat handsome,somewhat nice and have some money and thank God are heterosexual, are shy and NEVER MAKE THE FIRST MOVE!!!!

11. The men who never make the first move, automatically lose interest in us when we take the initiative.

these reasons might make you (girls) laugh when you read it, because the first time i read this article, i laughed for about 5 minutes non stop. but the conditions above are facts, though we haven't experienced them before.

just for fun! :) hope you guys (and girls) like it! :D

me = emo?

2008-10-28T18:30:00.001+07:00

inspired by tjung's blog..

is emo a way of life? it is, actually for some people, though the others might think that emo is somewhat weird.. emo people are human as well. they can taste the food that we taste, they breathe the same air, and they feel the same way as we do. therefore, don't call them "freak" coz they're not! it's just a way of life that they've chosen. let them enjoy their own life and stop disturbing them!

me? am i emo? maybe about 20% of me is emo, and it would show up at certain times, yet i rarely look emo (think so..) a cheerful person, am i? (well, lots of people say so, maybe it's bcoz i almost always laugh and seem to enjoy my time a lot)

as we know, love may bring happiness, yet it gives us an eternity scar, can't be cured by any doctors or pills. you experience a lot of things and it would make you wiser.. or emoer..

for those who are emo, i know what it feels, really, i know how hard it is to be such an emo person.. feeling like there's no hope, and life means nothing.. being religious, i suggest you guys to hear this song. hope that you guys would understand the true meaning of life and enjoy yours!

snacks! yummy!

2008-10-27T21:00:00.001+07:00

requested by a friend of mine, named elrich TJUNG :p

hmm, what should we make today? [though i'm not an expert in cooking, but i really love it, i want to try this after i post this and i'll tell you guys whether this recipe works or not :p]

i choose... after 15 minutes consideration.. maybe the best one would be..
CHOCO ALMOND COOKIES! YAY! lol..

here are the ingredients:
1. 150 grams of margarine / butter, soften
2. 50 grams of sugar
3. 1 tea spoon of extract vanili
4. 1/4 tea spoon of salt
5. 140 grams of flour
6. 90 grams of chocolate chips
7. 100 grams of almond (or 50 grams of almond & 50 grams of cornflakes)

how to make:
1. stir with wooden spoon: butter and sugar, stir until they mix firmly. then add extract vanilli and salt, stir. add flour, chocolate chips, and almond. stir.
2. shape every 1/2 spoon of the batter into circle by using 2 spoons, then put them on flat baking pan that is already lubricated by butter, don't forget to put space between each circle.
3. bake inside oven with the temperarture of 160°C for 20 minutes until the cookies are done. take them out of the oven and let them cool. put into a glass jar.

then your cookies are ready! i hope this would help you guys! for indonesian recipe click here.

love?

2008-10-27T19:42:00.000+07:00

inspired by chintia's blog..

love huh? a lot of people keep on questioning about love, including me.
we experience a lot of love, love from family, love from friend, and love from spouse / girl/boyfriend

love from your family, is the one that is said to be pure, and a lot of people said that we should trust our family more than the others

friends? love from our friends.. if you're a person that has a lot of friends and all your friends ARE loyal and faithful, then you might not know what it feels to be betrayed by your nearest friend. well, that's great actually, and that is the friendship that i've been searching for all of my life.. lol.. yet, i'm happy now because i believe that i have great friends around me that are ready to support me no matter what happens (ouuu, so sweet... =3)

love from spouse, well, i don't have one, so let's change it into boyfriend hahaha.. a boyfriend, maybe the one that understands quite a lot about you.. the one that comforts you whenever you feel that your days suck, and the one that makes you cry when a happy day is ruined by a monthly fight.. hmm, is this what we call love? well, i don't really agree with this, because as we know, love brings happiness. always? surely not. it brings sorrow and joy at the same time :)

then what is love?! no answer?! love has so many meanings.. i tried to sum them up into a poem (maybe); titled LOVE:

love lacks common sense
love changes people and their minds
love brings happiness
love leaves eternity scar
love may not demand anything, yet people do anything for love
love means something pure
love needs care
love blinds
love hurts
love kills
L_O_V_E

agree? hope so :)

cousin's wedding! =3

2008-10-19T13:18:00.000+07:00

it's cousin's wedding yesterday and it's a family gathering as well :)
though i got there somewhat late, everything still went well!

today, i have another thing to do [other than looking for my cousin and girlfriend's fs, commenting on my bro's bday pictures, playing around with my computer].. lol..

hope today would be a better day! :)

HAPPY BIRTHDAY MY DEAR BRO!

2008-10-17T21:30:00.000+07:00

it's Oct. 17th, which means this is my brothers birthday!
happy 19th birthday!
you're getting older bro, so be wiser as time passes by. lol
i got my mid-semester report card today.. though it's not so satisfying but i got all above 6 yeah!

yesterday my class, 10.2, led the chapel and the musicians rock! [ezra, adit, kristel, maria, grace, calvin, and last but not least: PAK HERU!!] we did a great job, so be happy! :)

i got a lot of projects to do, yet the time is so limited, i hope i would finish them off on time.. gosh..

tomorrow will be an important day for my cousin. he's getting married tomorrow and i hope that everything would go right!